'Tis the Season

I have a cute Christmas tree day counter on my computer desktop that says it is 6 days until Christmas. House decorated? Christmas cards sent? Shopping done? Presents wrapped? Baking finished? Menus planned? Parties attended? Normally, at this point in the month, I can check off all those boxes – but not this time. I spent many hours in the past months preparing for Christmas this year. But God had other plans for me. In Ecclesiastes 3, we read:

1 For everything there is a season,
a time for every activity under heaven.
2 A time to be born and a time to die.
A time to plant and a time to harvest.
3 A time to kill and a time to heal.
A time to tear down and a time to build up.
4 A time to cry and a time to laugh.
A time to grieve and a time to dance.

Grief has consumed the month yet Christmas is coming. Three little granddaughters are arriving at the end of the week and Nana is not ready. However, Advent means more than all the trappings of this season – it is all about remembering the coming of the baby Jesus. My dad returned with us and I must choose what is important and which activities to schedule for a happy and joyous time for our family. It won’t help anyone if I am frazzled, frustrated and cranky in an effort to complete the usual holiday preparations. Some things just won’t be done and I trust that God will show me what He wants us to do to honor the birthday of the King. Those same three little girls have the legacy of a great grandmother who loved the Savior and knew the true meaning of Christmas. Our celebration will be tinged with sorrow this year, but we know that Jesus’ birth signaled new life for all of us and a time to dance will come.

RIP

Helen Greene Hall
1924-2006

Wife, mother, grandmother, great gram, sister, aunt, friend.
We wish you Godspeed on your final journey Home. We love you and already miss you.

We are confident, yes, well pleased rather to be absent from the body and to be present with the Lord. 2 Corinthians 5:8 (NKJV)

He Holds the Future

My cell phone rang. It was Dad asking me to come and help. He was at his wits end and Mom needed some encouragement and so did he. We cancelled our day, boarded a plane and headed for Southern California. The fall that she took on Thanksgiving had so discouraged my mother that she was in deep depression. As we flew, I told Mark that I was completely unprepared for this – kind of like the day they placed this crying baby in my arms and the wonder of motherhood hit me. Now, we are in the other end of life and the guidebooks are just as scarce. Seeing Mom lying in the hospital, weak, tired, and bandaged was heart wrenching. Dad was exhausted and our immediate task was to get the details of his life in order – laundry, grocery shopping, banking, oil in the car. The bigger task demanded creativity and perseverance – encouraging Mom to get better, to eat, to take an interest in her surroundings – no easy feat. However, God is gracious and she chose life and is growing stronger each day. The journey for her is often three steps forward and then two back. What was normal before that fateful day will never be the same. New decisions must be made. Old plans have to be altered. God is in control and again, it is just enough light for one step at a time. We are holding our schedule loosely since another call might come at any time. Mary and Joseph’s plans were changed at the last minute, too. I am sure she would have much preferred to give birth surrounded by the comfort of her home and family. However, God led them to a stable with only the animals in attendance for the greatest miracle birth and His bed was a humble hay trough. God's timing is perfect and we can trust Him to take care of us. We don’t know what the future brings but we know Who holds the future.
God is good,
a hiding place in tough times.
He recognizes and welcomes
anyone looking for help,
No matter how desperate the trouble.
Nahum 1:7 (The Message)

Bump in the Road

Just when you think that life is finally moving along smoothly, a bump in the road pops up and we experience a huge jolt. What do you do? We had this happen this week over the Thanksgiving holiday. All the plans and preparations were accomplished with little fuss and praise all around. Then the phone rings and life turns upside down. My 82-year-old mother fell getting out of bed hitting her head on Thanksgiving morning, and ended up having emergency brain surgery. She is holding her own and we have been given hope that she will fully recover. There is no way to prepare for these kinds of happenings. Only God knows what the future holds – for all of us. Trusting God is a daily challenge in both the good times and the bad. Yet, I walk by the stones that I have piled by the side of the road and it reminds me of the times He has met me in the past. I know He is comforting my dad and giving peace to my mother. During this time, our family closes in to support and encourage each other – and we wait. However, our hope is in the One who made us, heals us, and gives us life each day.

I trust in you, O Lord;
I say, 'You are my God.'
My times are in your hand.
Psalm 31:14,15 (ESV)

Thanksgiving Thoughts

This has been a year of change for us. As I reflect on all that has happened, I can truly say, “The Lord is good.” Our pastor reminded us yesterday to have an attitude of gratitude – in all things. The big issues are easy to list but he shared a few examples of the simple things – the ones easily missed:

I am thankful for…
The partner who hogs the covers every night, because they are not out with someone else.
The child who is not cleaning his room, but is watching TV, because that means he is home and not on the streets.
For the mess to clean after the party, because it means that I have been surrounded by friends.
For my shadow that watches me work, because it means I am in the sunshine.
For the parking spot I find at the far end of the parking lot, because it means I am capable of walking and that I have been blessed with transportation.
For the pile of laundry and ironing, because it means that I have clothes to wear.
For the alarm that goes off in the morning hours, because it means that I am alive.

I am very thankful for the significant things in my life -- my husband, children, grandgirlies, friends—both old and new, home, health, faith, and freedom. But the pastor’s list gave me a different perspective and encouraged me to reevaluate those daily events that often annoy or irritate me and to find ways to be grateful. If I have learned anything this year, it is to celebrate each day. We can count on problems, crisis, illness, and brokenness to touch us but our God is able to meet every one of our needs with His power, wisdom, and love. Give thanks to the Lord, for he is good! His faithful love endures forever. Psalm 136:1 (NLT) Take a few minutes before Thanksgiving and write down God's blessings to you this year – both in significant and minor ways. Why? After the children of Israel had experienced the miracle of walking across the dry land of the Red Sea, God gave instructions to take stones from the riverbed and pile them by the side of the path. The purpose was to remind them of God’s faithfulness every time they walked by and saw those stones. So when storms hit, pull out your list! Have a blessed Thanksgiving.

Enter his gates with thanksgiving;
go into his courts with praise.
Give thanks to him and praise his name.
For the Lord is good.
His unfailing love continues forever,
and his faithfulness continues to each generation.
Psalm 100:4-5 (NLT)

Who Done It?

I like a good mystery, whether it is a movie, television program or book. I don’t like scary ones but the kind where you solve the “who done it.” Some of my favorite programs were Columbo and Mission Impossible and today, CSI. Yet, when unexplained events occur in my life, rather than enjoying the suspense, I want immediate answers –all the details laid out for me to see. This past week has been one of those where I shake my head and wonder what God is thinking. A series of events has changed lives in ways that I could never have orchestrated and I might have done differently if I had been in charge. However, I was just a bystander acting as coach and cheerleader for loved ones confronted with an opportunity that was going to take them far beyond their wildest imagination. Life changing decisions challenge us to seek information and answers, particularly when our emotions are in turmoil. Family and friends can give opinions and options but only God has promised to give both wisdom and understanding. Sometimes we have to search for direction since we often don’t get letters in our mailbox or email with step by step instructions from God. Instead, we have THE Letter, the Bible, which includes all the help that we need. All we have to do is ask our Father, pay attention and listen to His leading. I still have a few questions that I intend to ask God someday about all this but I trust Him that His plans are the best for all of us and He will give us peace.

yes, if you call out for insight
and raise your voice for understanding,
if you seek it like silver
and search for it as for hidden treasures,
then you will understand the fear of the LORD
and find the knowledge of God.
For the LORD gives wisdom;
from his mouth come knowledge and understanding;
Proverbs 2:3-6 (ESV)

It's Character, Stupid

The election is over and the results are in. Depending on your political persuasion, your mood about the future is encouraged or disheartened. Everywhere you turn post mortems are being written on what happened and why. I think Chuck Colson’s thoughtful conclusion hits the mark, “You can talk all you want about the unpopularity of President Bush, or the Iraq war, or immigration. But what this campaign really boiled down to was, well, when it comes to conservatives, it's character, stupid. If conservatives don’t learn that lesson, they will spend a long time in exile — and deservedly so.” Theodore Roosevelt wrote, “Character, in the long run, is the decisive factor in the life of an individual and of nations alike.” God had something to say, too, Look at the proud! They trust in themselves, and their lives are crooked. But the righteous will live by their faithfulness to God. Habakkuk 2:4 (NLT) I can do nothing about the changes going on in the houses of power in Washington, D. C. but I can make sure that what happens in my house follows the principles given by God. I want a reputation of love, harmony, good times, honesty, and integrity to be present for all who cross the threshold of my front door. My desire is that family will feel at home, guests and friends who enter will feel appreciated and cared for, and strangers will know they are welcome. I have been involved in that political arena in the past and know the dangers inherent with such power. I left that avocation and now my desire is simply stated in 2 Timothy 4:7 (NLT), I have fought the good fight, I have finished the race, and I have remained faithful. To be able to stand before Him and hear Him say, “Well done, my good and faithful servant”—now that is winning!

Election Day

Trust God from the bottom of your heart;
don't try to figure out everything on your own.
Listen for God's voice in everything you do, everywhere you go;
he's the one who will keep you on track. Proverbs 3:5-6 (The Message)

Today will begin with a real sense of urgency for some people and others will head into the demands of the day oblivious to the national election. The television will be consumed with reporters and pundits chronicling trends, movement, opinions and ultimately votes. The one thing we won’t hear is the advice given in Proverbs. God is the only one who can lead us – not our national leaders, our pastor, or our friends. They will fail themselves and us. Yet, we have the great and awesome responsibility to vote and must not ignore the challenge presented today. Your candidate or issue may win or lose but your one vote insures that you have been part of the solution rather than the problem. Take this passage to heart and listen for God’s direction as you head to the polls – He has promised wisdom when we ask Him for it. He will not be surprised by the election results today. Trust Him to have it all under control.

Thankful Heart

Be thankful in all circumstances, for this is God’s will for you who belong to Christ Jesus. 1 Thessalonians 5:18 (NLT) During a phone call with my daughter yesterday, we discussed the importance of teaching children to have an attitude of gratefulness. Parenting is always a challenge and in this day of abundance, media advertising, and targeted marketing, it is natural for a child to express the “I want it now” syndrome. The “it” may not even be a toy but time and attention. Yet, life’s demands require choices with our resources of time and finances and our responsibility is to teach our children to be thankful for what they have. We brainstormed about ways to encourage the girls to have a thankful heart, especially timely with both holidays of Thanksgiving and Christmas just around the corner. How about adults? Do we suffer from the same attitude? Do our expectations and desires cloud our thinking so that we miss the good things that God is doing for us? After the past couple of weeks, I am grateful for a smile on Mark’s face. The unexpected visits by new friends encourage me that we are cared for. A gift of a yellow day lily sitting on my kitchen counter demonstrates God’s love of beauty. Let’s take inventory this month and list the daily small graces given by our Father…and give thanks.

Get Out and Vote!

"Nearly all men can stand adversity, but if you want to test a man's character, give him power." Abraham Lincoln

We are a week from Election Day and the frenzied attempt by both parties to win next week is everywhere: TV and radio spots, signs on every street corner, mailboxes filled with candidate mailers, phone calls designed to encourage you to vote, pundits projecting victory. By this time in an election season, most people can hardly wait for the day after the election. I believe President Lincoln was correct in his assessment of a man’s character. It has been said that power corrupts and absolute power corrupts absolutely. We certainly have evidence of the corruption in Washington as we see Congressional leaders hauled off to prison. However, does that mean we just give up? Do we stay home on Election Day because they are all just a bunch of bums? Does our vote count? Many elected good men and women serve us each day, unwilling to compromise their beliefs. They are being challenged with rhetoric intended to turn off voters and suppress the vote since voter turnout is key in any election. To illustrate, low voter turnout means that potentially only 15% of an entire state population would elect a candidate if turnout was 30%. We then have our leaders chosen by a small minority. I am a firm believer that if you are going to complain about a problem then you need to be willing to roll up your sleeves and be part of the solution. Casting your vote on Election Day is a first step. Be informed not inflamed by the choices presented. What are your key issues? Judge selection? Lower taxes? Choosing life? Immigration? The war? Pray before you head off to the polls for wisdom remembering that He that is in us is greater than he that is in the world. “But true wisdom and power are found in God; counsel and understanding are his.” Job 12:13 (NLT)

The Spirit Prays

In the same way, the Spirit helps us in our weakness. We do not know what we ought to pray for, but the Spirit himself intercedes for us through wordless groans. And he who searches our hearts knows the mind of the Spirit, because the Spirit intercedes for God's people in accordance with the will of God. And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose. Romans 8:26-28 (TNIV)

As my tired body crawled into bed last night, it hit me that my personal time with God had certainly been curtailed this week. Crisis management consumed each day from early until late. Then I remembered the verse that the Holy Spirit would pray for me when I just could not do it. He knew the anguish of my heart and mind and proved it each day with angels of mercy and grace that walked into the hospital room. The Holy Spirit had interceded on my behalf to the Father who gave me more than I could even think to ask for. He is so gracious and kind to those who are hurting. This situation could have been so much worse but now it is so much better. The pain is controlled, the knee is working, the blood clots are diminishing, and we are home. We know we are loved by those near and far as expressions of care and concern flow to us almost hourly. And…we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him. Thank you, Heavenly Father!

The Land of the Living

I am still confident of this: I will see the goodness of the Lord in the land of the living, Wait for the Lord; be strong and take heart and wait for the Lord. Psalm 27: 13-14 (NIV)

I received these verses in an email before I took off for the hospital today and claimed them as His promise for us. I printed them out to share with Mark and read them to him soon after I arrived. I had no idea what comfort they would be for me this day. Around 11 AM the cardiologist walked into his room and told us that the decision had been made to do a heart catheterization since the blood tests continued to show elevated heart enzymes. With his heart history they wanted to take no risks and felt that he may have had a small heart attack along with the embolism in his lungs. The only way to rule it out was an angiogram set for 1 PM. I struggled with this news hardly believing that this was happening to him again. There was barely time to make any calls to get the prayers going up before he was wheeled out. The doctor hoped that the best case would be just taking the pictures to assure that the blood flow was fine but the worst case would be inserting more stents. Again, my pastor/friend John had walked into the room just before the doctor and stayed with me the whole time. And the news is good! The angiogram showed that the heart was clear of any blockage and he was sent back to his room, all done in an hour. I WILL see the goodness of the Lord in the land of the living!!! (Taken from an email sent out tonight to family and friends.)

Rest for the Weary

Then Jesus said, “Come to me, all of you who are weary and carry heavy burdens, and I will give you rest. Take my yoke upon you. Let me teach you, because I am humble and gentle at heart, and you will find rest for your souls.” Matthew 11:27-29 (NLT) We are weary around here. Mark’s surgery and recovery have been much harder than we anticipated. Not only is it difficult medically and physically for Mark but also for me as I watch him suffer with continuing pain…I feel so helpless. We have a fountain in our back yard and now I keep the door open because I love to listen to the to the sound of the water splashing as it falls from one bowl to another. It is a soothing sound and reminds me of the peace and comfort that Jesus offers when we come to Him for rest. He has experienced pain and will be there for Mark. He knows the rest that I need from worry and fear and will be there for me, too. What a relief to know that I don’t have to do it all. Again, I continue on the path of trusting my Heavenly Father in all things. He will take care of us.

Trials

Consider it pure joy, my brothers, whenever you face trials of many kinds, because you know that the testing of your faith develops perseverance. James 1:2-3 (NIV) Our friend and pastor, John, gave us this passage yesterday when he stopped by the hospital to visit with Mark who endured knee replacement surgery this week. Mark expected pain but nothing like he experienced. Finally, they discovered that he is part of the 25% of people that morphine does not help which meant that for the first 8-10 hours after surgery, he was without any pain relief. What a very long day! With the problem resolved, he spent the day recovering from all the medication he had been given in addition to getting this new knee to work. God has been so good to us with the new friends that have walked into our lives as evidenced during this recent trial. We know that He is working in our lives to produce that perseverance that will make a difference for the kingdom – even with detours to the hospital.

Sabbath Rest

We attended a Couples Retreat this week with new friends from our church. I discovered pine trees and mountains in the middle of Arizona and enjoyed near perfect weather with beautiful Fall days and nights. The topic for the retreat was Connecting with the Sacred. Our speaker encouraged us in one session to think about the Sabbath and God’s demonstration by his own pattern in creation of taking one day to rest. What is your usual Sunday schedule? As a child, I remember the whole day filled with church activities interspersed with maybe a nap, reading a favorite book, or visiting with family. Stores were closed, no sports on TV – the day was quiet. Can you imagine a world like that today? Now Sunday is often catch-up day: chores of laundry, shopping, yard work, or bills…and, don’t forget to catch the morning service at church, almost as an after thought. Time is a precious commodity but taking a breather must be part of our schedule including time to rest with our Heavenly Father. It seems reasonable to me that if a field profits from a year to lie fallow every seven years so that the soil can regenerate, our bodies, minds and souls also need time off once a week. Yet, we think we can’t afford the time. The fact is we must take the time. Taking a day to listen with our hearts to those we love brings balance back to the relationship increasing communication during the week. Spiritual fine-tuning occurs enabling us to match our heartbeats with the heartbeat of the Father. The rhythm of life is put back in sync. Monday morning hits and we are off and running again but with renewed energy and purpose. So as the weekend approaches, Remember that the Sabbath Day belongs to me. Exodus 20:8 (Contemporary English Version)

Forgiveness

The clip clop of horses echoed along the dusty road as the families and community remembered and celebrated the lives cut short of four young girls this week in Pennsylvania. More funerals will follow this week. This story struck a nerve in me as I listened to each detail repeated over the TV and radio. My heart aches for the families and though I am not familiar with all the tenants of the Amish religion, their immediate forgiveness of the killer and faith in God’s sovereignty challenged me to look at my own life. I know from past hurts and sorrows that forgiveness is the key to wholeness and new life within. Holding a grudge leads to bitterness, which destroys the body, soul and mind and nothing is gained from hanging on to a hurt—no matter how large or small. Paul said in Colossians 3:13, You must make allowance for each other's faults and forgive the person who offends you. Remember, the Lord forgave you, so you must forgive others. (NIV) These God-fearing people have demonstrated to the nation that forgiveness is the only way to respond to this tragedy even going so far as to invite the shooter’s family to one of the funerals today. What a picture of God’s grace and forgiveness! We can do no less.

Evil Continues

Tears flowed as I listened to Good Morning America as a friend of the wife of the shooter in Pennsylvania described the seemingly good relationship in that family. They were all members of a prayer group, Moms in Touch, and this friend said she was shocked and surprised as the wife had only good things to say about her husband. How could this happen? The other lead story focused on a congressman who took advantage of young pages and misused his position of power and prestige in an attempt to corrupt young men. How could this happen? Aren’t our children safe anywhere? In 1 Peter 5:8-9 (CEV) it says, Be on your guard and stay awake. Your enemy, the devil, is like a roaring lion, sneaking around to find someone to attack. But you must resist the devil and stay strong in your faith. You know that all over the world the Lord's followers are suffering just as you are. Satan is constantly searching for ways to take us down and using our children is one of his most potent weapons. We must resist! We must be on guard! We cannot complacently send our children off to school each day assuming that all is well. I find it ironic that the wife was at a Moms In Touch prayer meeting because the purpose of this group is to pray for our children while they are at school. Satan must be laughing his head off at the coup he managed with this latest school shooting. However, do not despair…there is hope! You, dear children, are from God and have overcome them, because the one who is in you is greater than the one who is in the world. 1 John 4:4 (NIV) Remember that we have the Almighty God who will destroy this deadly enemy. Our task is to be aware, resist the temptations presented and stand firm. Please pray for the safety of our children, for the leaders of our country, and the families who are in anguish during this difficult time. Prayer DOES change things.

Three Little Ones

Don't you see that children are God's best gift?
the fruit of the womb his generous legacy?
Like a warrior's fistful of arrows
are the children of a vigorous youth.
Oh, how blessed are you parents,
with your quivers full of children!
Your enemies don't stand a chance against you;
you'll sweep them right off your doorstep.
Psalm 127:3-5 (The Message)

Spending seven days and six nights with three little girls (ages 2, 4, 6 1/2) reminds me why youthful parents are better equipped for the task. My heart fills with gratitude that my daughter spends her days taking care of my special girls rather than dropping them off at day care. It is a sacrifice but one she willingly accepts and is encouraged in by her husband. Raising children today is no small feat…just turn on the television. I am a news junkie but while there, I kept the TV off because if you watch with little eyes, the horrors of the world projected into the family room are enough to make any child have nightmares. Kate did see a clip about a fire out of control and asked if her parents were near it. I immediately clicked it to off and assured her of their safety. The family is God’s picture of love, security, and hope. Grandparenting is a special, wonderful, and joyous privilege but a role completely different from parenting. This hit home daily while we were taking care of the girls. My job is to love these girls and encourage all of the family to always listen and follow our Heavenly Father. See you next time, little ones. It’s good to be home!

Just Words

Do you still hear the comment of a teacher, doctor, coach, counselor, or parent predicting your future? The words may have given you hope or caused you to feel defeat. But the amazing thing is that you remember them as if they were spoken to you yesterday. Was the prediction accurate? Has your life reflected the opinion of that respected person or did you make your own way? I have a friend who was told by a teacher in the eighth grade that he would never amount to anything. Almost 50 years later, he still struggles with feelings of damaged self worth even after achieving a satisfying and successful career in the very field that had precipitated the remark. However, I had a camp counselor that told me at age nine that I would do great things one day. I’m not sure what God intends for me with those words of encouragement but I have never forgotten them. We are babysitting our granddaughters this week and I am reminded how impressionable and vulnerable the heart, mind, and psyche of these little ones are. We must be so careful with what we say – to speak words of life and not death. In Jeremiah 29:11, the Lord says, “I know the plans I have for your, plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.” Someone may think they have the inside track for our life but only our Heavenly Father knows where we are headed. His plan will never disappoint us and we can trust the One who made us to make sure we succeed.

Heart Listening

I met a young nurse last week at the hospital while undergoing one of those humiliating tests that are necessary “at this age.” She brightened up the room when she walked in to complete the paper work and prepare me for the doctor. I immediately noticed what a pretty girl she was and as we engaged in the normal chitchat of nurse and patient, our conversation turned to moving and how exhausting it can be. She mentioned that she had moved three times this last year. I expressed my heartfelt sympathy and asked her why? Out poured her story: a divorced mom of two who married young (she is now 28), and through a blind date met her prince charming eight months ago. The romance fast-forwarded through the fairytale engagement party, wedding plans with all the trimmings, yet ended with a broken engagement and the latest move. The wedding date had been set for the day after our conversation. But there were no tears of regret in the eyes of this beautiful girl because she was sure that God was leading her in this decision and He had a better plan for her and her boys. I encouraged her in her step-by-step walk with the Lord and reminded her to share the comfort that God had given her during this difficult time with those she meets in the future. After she left the room, I had several minutes alone before the procedure to think about our conversation and pray for Julie. I rejoice that I listened beyond her words to hear her heart. Thank you, God, for giving me Your flashlight to shine on the way. He comforts us in all our troubles so that we can comfort others. When others are troubled, we will be able to give them the same comfort God has given us. 2 Corinthians 1:4 (NLT)

The Gift of Friendship

Moving to a new area, miles from old friends, has been one of the bigger challenges now that the pressing issues of settling in have been accomplished. Phone calls, email, and cards help maintain connection with those “back home.” However, a new passage in life forces me to step out of the comfortable and meet new people. Experience reminds me that friendship comes in various forms. It might begin as a shared interest in a hobby, children or grandchildren, or vocation. With some, it is forged during moments of intense battle for a common cause. With others, it settles into a comfortable relationship without complication. You cannot hurry a friendship—it takes time to know the heart of a person. For a moment, consider defining friendship as a group of concentric circles. At the center, only two or three people really know the intimacies of our heart. Many more fall in the next ring and are part of our everyday lives in a casual way. A few people live in another city but continue to impact us. And the final ring includes those folks we call acquaintances. Doug Weibe writes, “These gifts of friendship are scattered like ripe fruit in the gardens of our lives, waiting to be tasted and enjoyed. Each gift is given by a loving God, who knows what we need and who desires a friendship with every one of us. Therefore, while we may choose our friendships, we do not create the gift of friendship. We can work on our friendships, but we cannot change them into something they are not gifted to be. This is the pain and the joy, the poverty and the incredible freedom we experience on the journey to becoming friends.” I am on that journey and each time spent with a new “friend” offers hope and promise. Wonder who God will bring into my life tomorrow?

9/11 and $14

I received an email from a friend about the glorious homegoing of her 94-year-old dad. She writes, “I was surprised by my reaction when Dad took his last breath as I shouted through my tears ‘I am so happy! I am so happy! Dad made it – He is in the very presence of the Lord.' ” As I thought about her reaction, I am in awe at the thought that I, too, will one day stand in His very presence. She experienced first hand what it says in Psalm 30:5 (NLT), Weeping may go on all night, but joy comes with the morning and, again, in Revelation 7:17b (NIV), And God will wipe away every tear from their eyes. Tomorrow, we will remember the tragedy of 9/11 and mourn again for so many lost lives from that fateful day. I did not personally lose a loved one but I lost, as did all Americans, the right to feel safe and secure in this land we love. Yet, maybe the better lesson learned from such an excruciating loss like 9/11 occurs in the continuing story from my friend. She writes that as her brother was later going through his father’s wallet, he came across $14. He mused whether that was all this life had come to—$14? "Then the Lord prompted him with, 'You are not looking at life from the right perspective. What else is significant about the number 14?' My brother said to the Lord, ‘Dad had 14 grandchildren.’ God then sweetly said to my brother 'That is where your dad's treasure was—his grandchildren.' Isn't that just like the Lord to gently turn our eyes back to what is really important – family?” Our treasure must not be centered in our bank account or all the security measures we might establish. We have seen firsthand how these fail. Instead, choose treasure made up of gold, silver and jewels that will never be destroyed: faith, family, friends, and freedom. For where your treasure is, there your heart will be also. Matthew 6:21(NIV).

School Days

There is a time for everything, a season for every activity under heaven. Ecclesiastes 3:1(New Living Translation) My granddaughter, Kate, starts first grade tomorrow and is so excited. Her mother is crying. It signals the end of babyhood and the beginning of her passage into a mature and responsible young woman. Transition from one season of life may be hard whether the change is welcome or not because we become accustomed to certain routines and schedules. We are creatures of habit and like the familiar. It takes work to make changes … dieting is a good example, moving is another. But, the result is worth the personal sacrifice. Sometimes, we have no control over the change and survival comes with trusting God for our lives, our family, and our future. He knows what is best and even though we may shed a few tears, He is gently holding us up during those times. I love the story of Footsteps in the Sand. (Let me know if you have not heard it.) Even change that is welcome such as a marriage or the birth of a child results in enormous internal and external adjustments. However, we can have confidence that God is the author of the book of our lives and He knows the end from the beginning. Take life a chapter at a time and see what wonderful things He has in store. Remember Kate - who can hardly wait for tomorrow!

Toddler Stage

I just spent a week with all of my granddaughters at Lake Tahoe. The almost two year old gave me quite a scare. She is known in the family as “Lil’ Al” for her lack of fear and multiple injuries including a broken arm and a black eye. If you ask her if she is a baby, she will immediately correct you and announce that she is a toddler. Remember the toddler stage? Unsteady but moving at breakneck speed? We stood at the top of a flight of stairs and she insisted on heading down all by herself with no help from me. She stumbled on the top landing and I had visions of her falling headfirst down that whole flight but instead she sat down on her bottom and all was well. At that moment her guardian angels were working overtime and I could only breathe a huge sigh of relief that the danger had passed with only an enormous scare for Nana. Later as I thought about the incident, I thanked God for protecting my sweet granddaughter. But, I also recalled many times when I wanted to do things all by myself and had no idea of the danger ahead. Maturity helps steady little feet. The same holds true for us when we spend time at the feet of Jesus. He teaches us His ways and helps us grow up in Him. We may be a little shaky at times but He is always there to support us as we take one step at a time. Isaiah 33:6 (CEV) says, you are the foundation on which we stand today. You always save us and give true wisdom and knowledge. Nothing means more to us than obeying you. Allie is growing up so fast and soon will be running down those steps. You will, too.

Come Away

And He said to them, "Come away by yourselves to a secluded place and rest a while." (For there were many people coming and going, and they did not even have time to eat.) Mark 6:31 (NASB)

It has been a crazy busy few weeks – pack, move, unpack, let workers in, let workers out, shop, delivery, shop, drop. I’m ready for a little rest and relaxation with family and friends. The timing of this vacation was planned a year ago and only God could have known how much I would need a break. I am learning to appreciate the beauty and quiet of the desert and mountains outside my windows but I can hardly wait for the familiarity of the Sierras and lakes of California. There is something about the majesty and serenity of that area that always soothes my weary body and soul. Jesus noticed that his disciples needed to get away after a busy season and so do we. Take a few minutes for a breather at Starbucks and enjoy your favorite coffee. Stop in at Borders and wander through the stacks of books. It is good to “come away.” Bags are packed – see you in a few days.

"Character" Part 3

“Good character… is not given to us. We have to build it piece by piece-by thought, choice, courage and determination.” ~ John Luther

We attended a candidate forum last night. Men and women of character are often hard to find these days in the realm of politics. However, as citizens it is our duty and responsibility to cast informed votes. New to the state of Arizona and unfamiliar with the candidates, I wanted to hear and see first hand the men and women who wish to represent me. Are they people of character? Will their decisions on bills be based on personal gain or for the good of the electorate? Are they running for the power attached to the office or for the passion of their beliefs? Do their priorities coincide with mine? Corruption by politicians is a big story that has been exposed by every media source and it is easy to become cynical and jaded about the character of anyone willing to enter this arena. However, there are some very good men and women serving our country. In other seasons of my life, I have worked hard for candidates and was confident they would win but it did not always happen. I learned that God’s ways are not always my ways – He knows the end of the story. Politicians may think they have the power and ability to make important decisions but God is the one in ultimate control. It says in Daniel 2:21 (NLT), He determines the course of world events; he removes kings and sets others on the throne. He gives wisdom to the wise and knowledge to the scholars. I gained new insight into the people who will be on my ballot. I pray that God’s choice will be the winner.

Roaring Lion

Again, our security is shaken with the latest news from Great Britain. The terrorists continue their efforts to take the United States down but this time they were thwarted in their efforts. Box cutters, sports drinks, flash cameras, who knows what next? They would be easier to catch if they were blatant with their tactics. However, they are subtle using everyday items so that they can slip through undetected. Beware – we have a greater enemy stalking us. The Message says in 1 Peter 5:8-9, Keep a cool head. Stay alert. The Devil is poised to pounce, and would like nothing better than to catch you napping. Keep your guard up. You're not the only ones plunged into these hard times. It's the same with Christians all over the world. So keep a firm grip on the faith. Have you watched how cats work? They sit and survey their target – waiting for the best time. Next, they prowl around checking out the area before they zero in and silently pounce on their prey. No wonder Satan is referred to as a lion because he, too, is crafty and cunning using everyday situations to ensnare us – no red suit or pitchfork to give him away. He wants to destroy those he cannot control – who do not give him their allegiance and loyalty. Sounds like the terrorists. However, we rejoice because Christ defeated Satan through His death and resurrection. It will take some time to regain that peace of mind crushed today by those seeking to destroy us. But, He is the ultimate victor. Don’t be afraid!

You, dear children, are from God and have overcome them, because the one who is in you is greater than the one who is in the world. 1 John 4:4 (NIV) I am leaving you with a gift--peace of mind and heart. And the peace I give isn't like the peace the world gives. So don't be troubled or afraid. John 14:27 (NLT)

Keep on Trekking

We spend a lot of time waiting for God to show us what He wants us to do…that one step at a time trek. Yet, I am both delighted and surprised to see the unexpected hand of God move in my life. I don’t believe in chance because I know that God controls each moment of my day so when I “happened” to turn on the car radio traveling home last week, I certainly did not expect it to set off a chain reaction of divine circumstances. While driving, I listen to talk radio. New to the area, I began punching buttons to find something interesting to listen to on the long ride up Oracle Blvd. On this particular Sunday afternoon I caught a program called Do it Right Radio! The host was in the middle of talking about several points that would help your business grow. Normally, I would skip to the next button but something caught my ear and I listened all the way home. I missed a couple of points when I ran into the grocery store so pulled up the radio station on the computer to see if there was a website. Long story short, the host and his wife moved last May to the same community that we now live in. His background includes mission work, radio production, and now a life coach. Mark and I arranged to meet him for tea and developed an immediate friendship. As we talked and shared our dreams and passions, the gifts and strengths of each was quickly woven into the tapestry of God’s plan and we all left with renewed enthusiasm for God’s direction. I am excited about the future and the way God is stretching us. I don’t know tomorrow’s game plan but I am thankful for today’s Light and…will keep on trekking. Romans 8:28 And we know that in all things God works for the good of those who love him, who have been called according to his purpose.

Follow the Leader

I encourage you to pick up a copy of My Utmost for His Highest by Oswald Chambers for your personal study. Around since 1935 but updated in 1992, this devotional constantly challenges me with either new teaching or rethinking of long held beliefs. I have been mulling over a recent entry that urges us to get out of the way so God can work. God’s still small voice is stifled by our noisy instruction of what we think He is saying. “We must learn to keep our mouths shut and our spirits alert.” The apostle Peter was great at blurting out ideas without thinking … much like we all do … but God reminded him in Luke 9:35 (NIV), A voice came from the cloud, saying, "This is my Son, whom I have chosen; listen to him." We watch the fighting in the Middle East and see soldiers prepared for battle. We, too, need to be ready for the daily trials that come our way. Our "battle" plan includes reading His word, becoming alert to people and their needs, and waiting for God’s nudge – otherwise we only add noise and confusion and give the enemy a foothold. We have our marching orders – listen to Him – but we must be quiet in order to hear Him and not try to “help.” He has our backs and knows what terrain is ahead. So, pay attention, trust Him, and follow the Leader.

Giant Flashlight

James 1:5 (NLT) If you need wisdom--if you want to know what God wants you to do--ask him, and he will gladly tell you. He will not resent your asking. God is very specific in his instructions to us. However, I am the one that blows it by fretting and trying to figure out how to run my life my way. I would rather focus on the finish line, but God is more interested in the process than the ultimate goal. He wants us to learn to turn to Him the entire time – not just at the beginning when we want something or at the end when we might remember to thank Him. He wants to teach us how to trust Him each step of the way, whether it is over the jagged rocks or along the smooth path. He will never overstep the boundaries we put up but patiently waits for us to invite Him into the process. So don’t forget to consult with the Master the next time you need some help. He has the giant flashlight!

Character Part 2

Go with the flow, don’t make waves, just let it go, no big deal – sound familiar? Maybe you have even said or thought it yourself occasionally. It is easier to follow the crowd to make a problem disappear than to take the lonely hard position. However, character stands up when tested – even to the point of pain. Gen. Charles C. Krulak, Commandant of the Marine Corps got it right when he said, “The true test of character comes when the chips are down, when your gut starts to turn, when the sweat starts to form on your brow, when you know the decision you are about to make may not be popular ... but it must be made. That's when your true character is exposed.” We don’t have the same luxury enjoyed by previous generations where moral conduct, good manners, and respect for the law and property are supported by parents, neighbors, churches, and even the government. Our children and grandchildren’s security and future compel us to get involved. I encourage you to pay attention to the local news, go to a school board or town council meeting, attend a candidate forum, and don’t forget to vote. 1 Corinthians 16:13 (NLT) reads, Be on guard. Stand true to what you believe. Be courageous. Be strong. It is not easy or fun but character demands it and then you, too, will make a difference.

"All that is necessary for the triumph of evil is that good men do nothing." (Edmund Burke)

Character Part 1

One thing often leads to another when you are doing a google search on the Internet. I was looking for a particular quote on the subject of “character” and in the process found many more and it started me thinking. The one I was looking for is, “One test of character and virtue is what a person does when no one else is watching” by ethicist, William F. May. Yet Theodore Roosevelt’s comment that “Character, in the long run, is the decisive factor in the life of an individual and of nations alike” resonated as the turmoil in our world plays out on the TV. So what is “character"? Character is defined as the mental and moral qualities distinctive to an individual. Most of us are unable to do anything about the events in the Middle East other than pray. Each morning we get a new quota of 24 hours to spend yet how we choose to spend these hours reveals our character. Many will do just about anything to make more money, gain prestige, and have the good life. However, it is impossible to buy more hours in a day to do it. God describes how he looks at what we do every day in 1 Corinthians 3: 12-13 (NLT): Now anyone who builds on that foundation may use gold, silver, jewels, wood, hay, or straw. But there is going to come a time of testing at the judgment day to see what kind of work each builder has done. Everyone's work will be put through the fire to see whether or not it keeps its value. I want my time to count for the kingdom and not be wasted. The frenzied hustle of the move is beginning to wind down and I have a few moments to think about choosing activities of the gold, silver, and jewels quality. Summer is half over and the Fall brings new opportunities. Any plans?

Gerry's new pic

Dangerous Times

We are living in dangerous times. 9/11 brought to the attention of Americans how vulnerable we are against terrorists. Now I turn on the TV and see pictures of the devastation in the Middle East. The age-old disputes in that region have erupted in fighting, bombings, and loss of life in this recent flare-up. The tiny country of Israel has the eyes of the world on it. I visited this country several years ago and was amazed at its small size and dry, barren land, yet it is the center of our faith. I don’t know the solution to the enmity between these families but the problem started thousands of years ago and will not be settled easily. Pray for wisdom for world leaders. Yet, with all the chaos and destruction, we know that God is in control. His divine hand wrote in Isaiah 26: 3-4 (NLT), You will keep in perfect peace all who trust in you, whose thoughts are fixed on you! Trust in the LORD always, for the LORD GOD is the eternal Rock. This is our hope…believe it.

Do NOTHING

With the house coming together, the extreme fatigue has lessened and I finally had time to sit down and read a magazine last night. After the last two weeks, the title of the first article caught my attention, " The Rewards of Relaxation,” by Margaret Renkl. It was a fascinating read about the differences between the relaxation techniques of men and women. Men come home from a horrendous day at the office and sit in front of the TV, motionless, for hours, doing nothing. NOTHING. When was the last time you sat down in front of the TV and just watched TV? Invariably, this is the time to fold the laundry, straighten up the toybox, read a magazine, or do needlework. “Women, and particularly mothers, are capable of activating several areas of the brain simultaneously,” says Marianne J. Legato, M.D., “far more than is the case with men.” However, we do ourselves a great disservice by all this constant activity in the areas of our health, creativity, relationships, and spiritual well-being. God’s desire is for us to quit striving and seek Him: Listen to this, Job; stop and consider God's wonders. Job 37:14. Another reminder echoes in Psalm 46:10a, Be still, and know that I am God. If the stress of constant busyness, herding children from one activity to another, or the never ending list of to-do’s keep us from time to be alone and quiet, we will not hear the still small voice of God’s leading in our lives. Take the advice we give our children – sit still!

Problems

It has been one of those weeks – even though it was a short one. A new house is never completely done when you move in. We had workers swarming through our home each day fixing, adjusting, repairing, replacing, or just inspecting. At one time on Friday, four plumbers’ trucks were parked in front of our house. During the week, one problem became so contentions that I took charge, sent out of flurry of emails, and made several phone calls. I was going to make sure that I was not ignored or dismissed. Notice all the emphasis on “I.” Quickly, the stress of the move came crashing down, affecting all areas of my life, yet the still small voice of God met me right at my core:

Be still in the presence of the LORD, and wait patiently for him to act. Don't worry about evil people who prosper or fret about their wicked schemes. Psalm 37:7

I realized that this was not my problem – I would let it go. The daily decision to let God be in control of my life is often a challenge but when I do, it makes life more peaceful and enjoyable. And you know what? All of those plumbers' trucks … they took care of the problem.

The Red, White, and Blue

Each family celebrates different holidays during the course of the year but in our house, the 4th rates right up there with Christmas. I love the festivities – from hometown parades with flags waving by young and old to yummy backyard barbeques with family and friends. Of course, the day must end with the oohs and ahs of fireworks. Freedom is something we must cherish, not take for granted, and pass on to our grandchildren. Today, we see all over the world the efforts to attain freedom and independence just as our country fought for so many years ago. In our nation, a debate rages about war, freedom and democracy but let’s put all that aside today and thank God for our many blessings and celebrate the joy of independence and the freedom given to each citizen in the United States of America. Happy 4th of July!

Hurray!

It has been a very long week. I woke up this morning feeling like Gloomy Gussie (Mark’s affectionate name for me.) As overwhelmed as I feel, I have a new respect and admiration for military families that move often because it requires such strength, endurance, and stamina. Greeting a myriad of boxes at every turn, furniture in the wrong place or wrong room, endless missing parts to the whole, the doorbell ringing with workmen stopping by to fix something – I wonder if my one step at time will bring me to the end of this journey. Yet after five days of searching, Mark did find the missing comforter for our bed in the pile of boxes in the garage and I found the two errant lampshades in a box stacked in the closet. I knew that I needed some spiritual refreshment so I prayed for comfort and encouragement and was rewarded in Psalm 27:

11-Teach me how to live, O LORD.
Lead me along the path of honesty,
for my enemies are waiting for me to fall.
13-Yet I am confident that I will see the LORD's goodness while I am here in the land of the living.
14-Wait patiently for the LORD.
Be brave and courageous.
Yes, wait patiently for the LORD.

As I read, I smiled to myself because there was His promise, again, to lead me on this path. And my part? It is to be brave and courageous and wait – patiently! It has taken most of the day for the gloominess to lift but tonight I feel encouraged that tomorrow I will be one step closer to order in all of this chaos. Hurray!

God and the Computer Age

Did I mention that moving is exhausting!? After a particularly grueling effort of packing, loading and driving to LA, arriving at 1 AM, the last thing I wanted to do was get in the car and drive another 9 hours to Arizona. But after dawdling as long as we could at my parents, we took off in our two cars headed east. I thought all the details for the move were completed so when my cell phone rang, I was surprised to hear it was my financial guy asking me where I was. “Driving on a freeway somewhere in LA,” I answered. He informed me that he needed to fax me one more paper to sign NOW for the deal and that I needed to get off the freeway and find a Kinkos. Freeway signs indicated that I was somewhere in Ontario so I suggested that he check the computer for locations and call me back. The traffic began to slow to a crawl, a phenomenon common in LA freeways. The phone rang again and he gave me the phone number of a Kinkos that was about 7 miles down the road. Still creeping along, I called Kinkos, got the directions, informed Mark of our detour and noticed the traffic beginning to pick up speed as we passed the accident. Our exit was two minutes away and 20 minutes later we were back on the road. The point of the story? God takes care of us in the details of our life. Some might call it “coincidence” but I know that without God’s timing of our morning, I could have been driving in the middle of the desert when the phone rang. It would have been impossible to write down the phone number and directions going 70 miles an hour, so the slow traffic was a blessing. And in the age of computers, cell phones, and faxes, the problem was quickly solved. I am learning to look for occasions when I can see His hand at work. Thank you, Lord, for your care in seemingly impossible situations.

Moving Day

The packers arrive today. The house is torn up and I sit amid boxes of computer "stuff" in the office with only the laptop operational. Moving day is tomorrow. This will be my last post from California but check back in a few days and I will let you know if it truly is a "dry heat" in Arizona! God bless you. And my God will supply all your needs accoording to His riches in glory in Christ Jesus. Philippians 4:19 (NAS)

Focusing on the Future

It has been a frantic week meeting deadlines for inspections and work orders but the result is sweet. Relief filled my heart and mind as I listened to the call from my realtor that all requirements of the sale are completed. In the end, God gave us a quick, clean sale and now I can concentrate on the real business of moving. I ran across this quote earlier this week:

What really matters now is
holding on to the memories
…and focusing on the future.

I have shed tears in the past few days for those friends that I will miss and I am sure more will fall before we head out. As excited as I am about this new adventure and challenge, I am also a bit scared. Change is never easy and if I were not absolutely sure that this is God’s plan for us, I might have given up long ago. Again, the light on the path is revealed to me step by step and my response must be, “thank you, Lord!” The future looks bright with new house, new neighbors, new church, new state, new…new…new. However, my anchor in all these uncharted areas comes from Proverbs 3:5-6, Trust in the LORD with all your heart; do not depend on your own understanding. Seek his will in all you do, and he will direct your paths. I am so glad He’s the mapmaker.

Pressing On

Life is chaotic right now with the move to Arizona less than a week away. Each day is filled with last minute meals with friends, change of address calls, suitcases to be packed, and the unending list of details for the close of the sale on the house. This poem caught my eye when searching the Internet as the writer expresses her thoughts on Psalm 119:105. It reminded me of God's faithfulness even in uncertain circumstances and that God is in control with his hand on all the details. We will make it….He is waiting at the end.

Pressing On.

When you can't see the finish line,
It's hard to know how much farther you have to go.
When you aren't sure of the footing,
It's difficult to tell if you're on the right path.

One step at a time, and believe.
One foot in front of another, and trust.
Slowly and carefully make your way
Knowing that you are lovingly being led.

When you can't accurately judge the depth
It's hard to know if you're going in too deep.
When you can't see how steep the drop-off will be
It's easy to unwittingly stand precariously.

One day at a time, and have faith.
One obstacle after another, and endure.
Steadily and confidently press on toward the goal
Knowing that someone waits for you at the end.

Hiccup

Nothing like a complete change of pace to get a little perspective. Selling the house and planning the move has been so consuming for the last few months that I have missed the time to relax with my granddaughters -- well, relax is probably not the right word. When you are 6 1/2, 4, and 21 months, activity is the watchword. But I love it and decided to sneak in a quick trip to recharge before the big move while Mark finished up some work at home. The bumps continue in the house sale as inspections reveal some problems, not uncommon but still a nuisance. Mark reminded me in an email this morning that the Phillips translation renders 1 Peter 5:7 as: "You can throw the whole weight of your anxieties upon him, for you are his personal concern." I don't have to worry about the dry rot because this is not a surpirse to God. How easy to have my joy and excitement drained by worry, yet God has proven his care of me in the last weeks and I know this is just a hiccup. I would rather enjoy this brief respite being loved and adored by three little girls and trust Him to handle it.

SOLD!

But these things I plan won't happen right away. Slowly, steadily, surely, the time approaches when the vision will be fulfilled. If it seems slow, wait patiently, for it will surely take place. It will not be delayed. Habakkuk 2:3 (NLT) I found this verse last week in one of my devotional books and claimed it as my promise of hope. Waiting patiently has been a challenge as our house has been on the market for the last three months and a move date is scheduled in two weeks. During these weeks, I prayed that God would bring the person He wanted to live here and that this place would be one of refuge and comfort for the buyer. Looking back, I see that He gave me His promise in Habakkuk eleven days ago and the “vision” was fulfilled today with an accepted offer and clean deal. Remember, God is rarely early but never late. This sale was done on His timetable, not mine, as He had been working out complex details for this buyer the entire time the house has been available. Today, I am so grateful to Him for his faithfulness to me. Next time I have to wait, I want to remember this experience when God met me and, hopefully, I will be more patient!

Halftime

I recently joined my husband, Mark, at a dinner to share in a new program, Halftime, offered to the men of our church. The purpose of the group is to challenge men to consider whether they want success or significance in the second half of their lives. At my house this is a regular topic of conversation because of the book, The Purpose Driven Life. I liked the suggestions of the speaker for discovering where God may be leading you at this stage of life, male or female. He asked two questions – what have you achieved and what do you deeply care about? This translates into competence and passion. When these two are combined with serving God, the possibilities are exciting. The challenge is to test some of our ideas using what we know and what we care about and then allow God to take those humble beginnings and shove us where He planned for us to go. For we are God's workmanship, created in Christ Jesus to do good works, which God prepared in advance for us to do. Ephesians 2:10 (NIV) Making a difference for the Kingdom – now that is success!

The Least of These

The nation is awash in news of immigration. It is not my intent to comment on the debate but to share a slice of life. Last night I volunteered with some friends at the Monument Crisis Center, which is located in the middle of a multicultural area of our community. This center provides food, referrals, legal help, and English classes to about 300 people a month. Our task was to replenish the shelves with the food items donated by local stores and prepare sacks of commodities provided by the US government. On Tuesday, one of the busier days, over 80 people were given food, depleting the shelves. In two crammed rooms filled to the ceiling with recently delivered foodstuffs, six of us worked side by side all evening. We shared a good laugh over the numerous boxes of Passover items donated and smiled at a carton of candy Easter eggs. Yet, the weekly generosity of the businesses, the diligence of the two paid staff, and the faithfulness of many volunteers make this a safe place for those who need help. I am reminded in Matthew 25:35-40 (New Living Translation) For I was hungry, and you fed me. I was thirsty, and you gave me a drink. I was a stranger, and you invited me into your home. I was naked, and you gave me clothing. I was sick, and you cared for me. I was in prison, and you visited me. '"Then these righteous ones will reply, `Lord, when did we ever see you hungry and feed you? Or thirsty and give you something to drink? Or a stranger and show you hospitality? Or naked and give you clothing? When did we ever see you sick or in prison, and visit you?' And the King will tell them, `I assure you, when you did it to one of the least of these my brothers and sisters, you were doing it to me!'

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Memorial Day

Memorial Day: freedom, liberty, honor, bravery, hero. A grateful nation pays tribute annually to those who lost their lives in the defense of freedom. The original designation of Decoration Day in the 1860’s was declared Memorial Day in the 1950’s with the stated purpose to pray for permanent peace. How are you celebrating this day? Do your children know why they are home from school? It is so easy to take for granted the freedoms that we enjoy; whether it is the freedom to attend church and pray, or march and burn the flag. But the greater responsibility is to pass on to our children and grandchildren, the stories of the personal courage, love of country, and dedication to duty sacrificially given by so many. My son calls his grandfather to thank him for his military service each year. When I heard about these calls, my heart filled with pride for my son and his gesture of love and renewed appreciation for my father and his service to this country.

President Bush, in conjunction with Congress, proclaimed this Memorial Day as a day of permanent peace and asked the nation to unite in prayer at 11:00 AM. Please take a few moments to bow and pray for peace, our nation, its leaders, and our men and women in uniform who serve all over the world.

Oh! thus be it ever, when freemen shall stand
Between their loved homes and the war's desolation!
Blest with victory and peace, may the heaven-rescued land
Praise the Power that hath made and preserved us a nation.
Then conquer we must, when our cause it is just,
And this be our motto: "In God is our trust."
And the star-spangled banner in triumph shall wave
O'er the land of the free and the home of the brave!

God Bless America!

Soft Answer

Last night, I became really irritated. It usually takes a lot of aggravation to put me over the edge but I was certainly close to that point. The incident is immaterial but my reaction to it is the issue. How do you respond to situations that get out of control? Are you able to still reflect Christ in those volatile circumstances? It is recorded that Jesus was angry and yet did not sin when he was in the temple with the money changers. I wonder how He managed to control his exasperation. Was it easier because of the reason that caused the anger? Was it the response of the people around him that made the difference? The verse in Proverbs 15:1, “A gentle answer turns away wrath, but a harsh word stirs up anger” whispered over and over in my mind yesterday as I vented my frustration and outrage on the phone. The response on the other end, however, was spoken in a soft, modulated voice, full of apology and understanding. He listened to me, asked several questions and responded quietly. My anger dissipated like the swish of air coming from a released balloon and I was able to calm down and have a rational conversation. This incident is a good reminder for future confrontations: slow down, think before you speak, use a quiet voice, listen, apologize if necessary. As a result, the conflict was reasonably discussed, the relationship is still intact, and calmness was restored to the situation. I may have to call him again, but this time I will speak in my “quiet” voice.

We can do it!

Fly!

When we walk to the edge of all the light
we have, and take that step into the
darkness of the unknown, we must
believe that one of two things will happen...
there will be something solid for us to stand on
or
God will teach us how to fly!

Making Music

Music has always been part of my life. My mother is a gifted pianist and started me on that track early. However, I did not have the same perfect pitch or desire to learn to play the piano so I quit after a few years. But I did love to sing and listen to music. I passed my first choral audition for the Honor Choir in the fourth grade and learned the beauty of singing in parts. As a senior in high school, I was selected to join Castlettes, a small women’s group that sang in the community and represented the school. And yesterday, due to the move next month, I sang in my last concert with a large community choral group, The Blackhawk Chorus. It has been a great privilege to be a member of this chorus for the last nine years. A unique bond develops when you are part of a group that works together. You learn to trust the director, the people sitting on either side, and yourself in order to make a beautiful sound together … it is not a solo. And there are disciplines involved to achieve the sound and level of accomplishment for the performances. Practice, practice, practice! Yet when the night of the concert arrives and the music stirs not only the audience but your own heart, there is nothing quite so glorious. Tears filled my eyes yesterday as we sang the final encore. I will miss this group because they have become like family. As I reflect on last night, it occurs to me that the same is true in our step by step walk with the Lord. When we learn to trust Him, listen and pay attention, and follow the disciplines He requires, we will make beautiful music in the lives of those around us. And we are never alone. "Be strong. Take courage. Don't be intimidated. Don't give them a second thought because God, your God, is striding ahead of you. He's right there with you. He won't let you down; he won't leave you." Deuteronomy 31:6 (The Message)

Birthday Wishes

This has been my birthday “week.” Waking up to find a card at the computer from my husband along with several email greetings from family and friends is a great way to start the day. There is nothing quite like a phone call at 7:30 AM with three little girls singing “Happy Birthday, Nana.” Breakfast, lunch, and dinner with loved ones remind me of my blessings. Cards and phone calls from all over the country bring such joy. Yet, the years pass quickly and when I look in the mirror I wonder where the girl who feels 16 inside is hiding among the wrinkles and “blonde” hair reflected back to this birthday girl. In Psalm 71:18 it says, Even when I am old and gray, do not forsake me, O God, till I declare your power to the next generation, your might to all who are to come. (NIV) The one good thing that comes from age is experience. I know that God has planned each day and my responsibility is to share the good news of God’s graciousness, wisdom, and power. The opportunities occur daily -- visiting with a neighbor I have not seen for ten years, a dozen young moms questioning me about the trials of raising children as we make pie crusts, or a granddaughter asking me to sing Jesus Loves Me. My prayer is that God will give me occasions to share what He has done…and I will do it!

Marching Orders

The call finally arrived. Our house in Arizona will be ready next month. We have been in process for over a year and now the end is near. A new house is almost ready to occupy and and our current house not yet sold. Do you ever question what God is telling you to do? Is that flashlight not shining bright enough down the path so that you feel hesitant to continue on? HELP! Remember, it is just one step at a time. So don't worry about tomorrow, for tomorrow will bring its own worries. Today's trouble is enough for today. Matthew 6:34 (NLT) Rather than fretting and rethinking this decision, I can trust that God will watch my back. He promises in Philippians 4:19, You can be sure that God will take care of everything you need, his generosity exceeding even yours in the glory that pours from Jesus. (The Message) So with that assurance, I will start the process of the move. I have my marching orders.

A Mother's Heart

For all the moms who had breakfast prepared for you today by little people with sticky fingers assisted by helpful dads, take a few minutes and relish the time off. You are doing a great job, Mom. I hope this version of I Corinthians 13 will be an encouragement.

I Corinthians 13 – “Mommy Style”

If I keep my house immaculately clean, and am envied by all
for my interior decorating, but do not show love to
my family – I am just another housewife.

If I am always producing lovely things like sewing, scrapbooking,
if I always look attractive, and speak intelligently but am not
loving to my family – I am nothing.

If I am busy in community affairs, teach Sunday school, and drive in
the carpool, but fail to give adequate love to my family – I gain nothing.

Love changes diapers, cleans up messes and ties shoes –
over and over again.

Love is kind, tough, tired, and frazzled.

Love doesn’t envy another wife – one whose children are “spaced”
better, or in school so she has time to pursue her own interests.

Love doesn’t try to impress others with my abilities
or knowledge as a mother.

Love doesn’t scream at the kids.

Love doesn’t feel cheated because I didn’t get to do what I
wanted to do today – sew, read, soak in a hot tub.

Love doesn’t lose my temper easily

Love doesn’t assume that my children are being naughty
because their noise level is irritating.

Love doesn’t rejoice when other peoples children misbehave
and make mine look good. Love is genuinely happy when
others are honored by their children.

“A Mother’s Heart” – Jean Fleming

Timing is Everything

I read in a devotional a few days ago that God is rarely early but never late. I mutter that phrase to myself these days as we wait for someone to buy our townhouse. It has been on the market for over two months and we have had no offers. I might begin to differ with God about His timing since the building of our house in Arizona is moving along and expected be done next month. But He also says that a day is as a thousand years and a thousand years is a day. I just need to look at time from God’s perspective and not mine. Waiting is the hardest work of hope and my part is to trust God’s timing. But if we look forward to something we don't have yet, we must wait patiently and confidently. Romans 8:25 (NLT)

Best Seller

I started reading The Da Vinci Code today. The movie is due for release next week and I decided to try and finish reading the book before seeing the movie. Being an avid reader, you might wonder why I am just now beginning this best seller. Basically, it was because of a prejudice and bias that I had picked up from just listening to people talk about it. I thought it was blasphemous and unchristian. It dawned on me that I had let others form my opinion and I usually don’t operate that way. If I want to know about something, I will usually go directly to the source so that I can make up my own mind. We need to have that same mindset about our Christian faith. Always be prepared to give an answer to everyone who asks you to give the reason for the hope that you have. 1 Peter 3:15 (NIV) The popularity of this book indicates the desire of people to find spirituality. We must be ready to present the One true answer to their questions.

Perfect Conditions

If you wait for perfect conditions, you will never get anything done. Ecclesiastes 11:4 (New Living Translation)

I almost fell into that trap of wanting those perfect conditions mentioned in Ecclesiastes a couple of years ago after I met a man who is now my husband on the Internet. On a plane headed north in order to take care of my granddaughters, I fretted about what I thought was an untenable situation with this man - he lived in Tennessee, was a musician, but did have a Macintosh. Ready to make a hasty decision to end the relationship and avoid any grief, I felt God quietly leading me to just wait. I wrestled with Him for a few more minutes and then acquiesced to His gentle nudge. On that plane trip God caught my attention and I chose to listen. Waiting is not a passive exercise. In fact, waiting is about the hardest thing we ever have to do. Just watching my nineteen-month-old granddaughter wiggle anywhere we go reminds me how hard it is to wait and at almost 59 I still struggle with it. It is so easy to waste time while waiting. Imagine yourself standing in line at the bank, or Starbucks, or even sitting in the doctor’s office. I find that at those times my mind wanders down several different roads--from observation of those around me to thinking about my “to do” list. Another easy yet unproductive habit is to turn the mind “off” and go into neutral. Neutral allows various thoughts and attitudes to enter our mind, some wanted, others unwanted. But if we are going to believe and trust that God is trying to tell us something in those moments of solitude, then we must follow His instructions on waiting. As I sat on the plane, worrying about how “I would handle a potentially hurtful situation,” I had to decide who was going to be in control--my Heavenly Father, or me? One of my favorite verses is Jeremiah 29:11, “For I know the plans I have for you," declares the LORD, "plans to prosper you and not to harm you, plans to give you hope and a future.” So often I get out in front of what God is trying to do in my life and mess it up. He challenges me to pay attention and stay close to Him. When I choose to trust the One who loves me unconditionally, He begins to unfold His perfect plan in His time.

Never Forget

I watched the movie United 93 this week. It is an emotionally, mentally and physically wrenching experience. Viewing the second plane ram into the second tower brought up all the horror of almost 5 years ago when I watched it happen the first time. I remember thinking to myself at the time that it felt like I was watching a movie. Today, the movie is as real as anyone could produce. By piecing together the information from the phone calls from passengers and crew, the black box, and using real players as themselves at both NORAD and the flight decks, the director/producer created a movie that almost felt like a documentary. The calculation of the terrorists, the coordination of the other planes -- UAL 175, AA 11, AA 77, the commitment of the men to their religion and goal was portrayed without emotion or commentary. The delay of United 93 in Newark allowed the passengers the time to gather the information of the other attacks when they called their loved ones. Those 45 minutes on the ground probably saved the Capitol in Washington DC from suffering the same attack as the Pentagon. The families of all who died on that fateful day and especially on United 93 deserve our heartfelt thanks for the bravery of their loved ones. The heroism of the passengers remind me why we must never forget! Terrorism is alive. It did not die with those planes. WE must be vigilant in the fight. As Winston Churchill said, "Never, never, never, never give up."

One Step At A Time

An excited group of hikers trekked single file down the side of the Grand Canyon. The destination still some distance, night descended on the small band as the sun dipped over the rim. The guide switched on his flashlight and the rest of the group followed suit. With the experience of many trips, he led them to the safety of the camp below. The next morning, one of the hikers looked up at the narrow trail on the side of canyon wall and noticed all the unseen dangers in the shadows of night -- boulders, land slides and steep switch-backs. One misstep would have been disastrous. Yet, following that single shaft of light--one step at a time--had steered each one to shelter. In Psalm 119:105 we read, By your words I can see where I'm going; They throw a beam of light on my dark path. (The Message) God will lead us to safety and shelter if we listen to Him. Join me as we engage in the journey together, seeking to know Him better so that we can follow the light.